Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Another Single on Christmas Post.

"Single On Christmas" seems to be a hot blog topic. I know, I know. I'm not single. But I can still talk about it.

Because for most of my life, I have been single on Christmas. In fact, this is the first year I have had a special guy. I didn't even have a high school boyfriend who stole his mom's money to buy me a necklace. I never got to come home from college with a boyfriend to show off to my friends and family. And my early twenties have not been spent on wondering if my boyfriend would get down on one knee and hand me a little box. I've never had any of that.

So I get it. I get how hard Christmas can be when you are single. Everyone is asking you about it, throwing out match.com suggestions and analyzing your every move to figure out why you're single.

Here's the thing: you being single is not a problem that needs to be solved. It is not a disease that needs to be cured. There is nothing wrong with it, and do not let anyone tell you otherwise or make you feel otherwise. (Easier said then done, I realize). Yes, it can make you feel a little sad and lonely, but it is simply where you are in life right now.

You can have a little self pity. But don't stretch it all season long. Take a few moments, hours, heck even a day, to just let yourself feel sorry for yourself. If that includes watching Netflix all day in your sweatpants while eating chocolate, go ahead. If it means stalking your friends facebook accounts and laughing at their cheesy holiday photos, go for it. But don't get stuck in the self pity cycle. Get up, wipe your hands clean, and put yourself out there.

Being single on Christmas is not the absolute worst thing to happen. I promise. It stings a little, but you can make it through. Focus instead on the things you DO have. A job. Family. Friends. God. People that love you and want absolutely nothing but the best for you.

Put on your best Christmas outfit and go have a happy holiday. While you may feel like love is missing in your life, realize that love is not always about having a significant other. Love surrounds you. Look for it, and it may surprise you.


Dave said... Add Reply

"Everyone is asking you about it, throwing out match.com suggestions and analyzing your every move to figure out why you're single. " - I think that sometimes it isn't everyone analyzing it is the single person over thinking that they are being analyzed. Not that I am everyone but I don't sit there on holidays wondering about someone else and their status. I'm just glad they are there because holidays are about family, people have enough other pressure in their lives to worry about.

Dee @ A Deecoded Life said... Add Reply

Very good advice! I did feel a bit blue about being single on Christmas like every other year but I've shaken it off and focused on the other blessings I do have. You are so right that it's not the worst thing.

I'm happy you have someone this Christmas though! :)